7 Tips to Help With Job Search Discouragement & Rejection

Food for Thought, Part of the Journey, Words of Wisdom

Let’s face it, searching for your dream job can be super challenging. Rejection sucks! With it comes a rollercoaster of emotions. It’s honestly another full-time job! There’s a lot of time spent doing the same thing over and over again only to never hear back, or be told, “…at this time we’ve decided to go with another candidate.” So how the hell do we keep from getting discouraged during the process? Here are 7 tips that are sure to help you:

1. Maintain/Improve Your Physical Health.

It’s easy to sit down at your computer desk and unbeknownst to you 7 hours have gone by. You’ve forgotten to take the dog out, forgotten to put dinner on the stove, maybe you even forgot to pee after drinking 5 cups of coffee. (Yea, something’s wrong with you. Sorry, I can’t help you {insert sly wink here}.) But please, please, make this the most important tip. Drink plenty of water—like, so much water you might just throw it back up. Take several breaks to go walk a mile with the dog. Go to the gym multiple times a week and get on that stairclimber. Go jog a track and play some tunes from the Remember The Titans Soundtrack (am I right, this album is the best).

Without this crucial step, it’ll be more difficult to climb your mountain and make it over the hump of job searching. Always put your health first.

2. Maintain/Improve Your Mental Health.

This tip goes hand in hand with numero uno. When we get discouraged we start thinking negatively. When we start thinking negatively, we start to doubt ourselves. And once we’ve started doubting, it’s easy to choose to give up. Take some important time in the morning while drinking your coffee, or in the evening before bed, to read a self-development book.

Here are some great books:

Have a smartphone? Listen to a podcast while at the gym or on a long walk. GaryVee is awesome, as well as some TED Talks.

3. Phone a Friend.

We all hopefully have that one friend who will give it to us straight, but will always give us some words of encouragement. Call up that friend and let them know what you’re up to and how you’re feeling. Their words will have the power to make you feel not so alone, and maybe they’re going through something similar. It’ll give you that boost you needed to keep going.

4. Reflect on Advice Given From Recruiters & Do It!

Let’s be frank…in an email returned with the bad news, did that recruiter give you any follow through? If not, is it possible to reply and ask for it? Yes! Whatever advice they have given you to help you be a better fit for next time, do it. Especially if it’s along the career path you’re passionate about. Here’s a great example from personal experience:


Deborah at Buffer gave some great tips to get a foot in the door with their company after being declined candidacy for a position. Take the advice given to you and make sure you do it!

5. Be Okay With Doing Some Things for Free.

This is something Gary Vaynerchuck says often. If it’s a skillset you need (for example: posting on social media platforms for a business) don’t be afraid to do this for free to gain exposure or experience. If there’s a service you provide, be okay with giving that service away for free. Doing so can connect you with more of the right people and can build your portfolio! Here’s a great podcast to check out that elaborates on this more.

6. Get Around Those Who Are Where You Want To Be.

For Example:

There are two things I’m personally passionate about: animal advocacy and remote customer service. To get around those who are where I want to be professionally, I’ve taken the liberty of becoming a New Media Intern for a non-profit animal advocacy organization I believe in, and I’ve also paid for mentorship from those who have worked at companies like Google and Buffer in the fields similar to my career goals. It’s important to do this because you want to learn from those who have already done it. It’s important to make those professional connections, network with the right people, gain experiences in the right areas, and mentor with those who have what you want in life. Without this step you are searching in the dark.

7. Do Not Give Up!

“It always seems impossible until it’s done.” ―Nelson Mandela

“How long should you try? Until.” ―Jim Rohn

“You just can’t beat the person who won’t give up.” ―Babe Ruth

“Never give up on something that you can’t go a day without thinking about.” ―Winston Churchill

“Failure is only the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” —Henry Ford

“As I look back on my life, I realize that every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being redirected to something better.” —Dr. Steve Maraboli

“Success seems to be largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go.” —William Feather (1889-1981)

“When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you … never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.” —Harriet Beecher Stowe (1811-1896)


The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting a different result. It’s easy to get discouraged while searching for your dream career, and even more discouraging after multiple rejections! Change things up a bit and remember there’s always something new to learn in the process. Once you’ve overcome this mountain you’ll be able to help someone else overcome theirs.

You’re almost there.
Keep going. 

Shayne (Storey) Montalvo

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